Showing posts with label Emotional Development. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Emotional Development. Show all posts

Monday, February 16, 2026

Early Childhood Development: Physical, Cognitive & Socioemotional Growth

Children's Physical, Cognitive & Sociomotional Growth.
Children's Physical, Cognitive & Sociomotional Growth.

The early childhood years are defined as the ages up to 8, where important physical, cognitive, and socioemotional development happens, as a child’s brain is very malleable and responsive to changes through a relationship with genes, environment, and experiences (UNICEF, 2026). Thus, caregivers must be nurturing towards young children as their early years very much shape a child’s life, and in this article, the various areas of development will be understood.


Physical development of young children


Firstly, a child’s physical development will be discussed.

A child grows 2½ inches in height and 5 to 10 pounds in weight every year, while the frontal lobe of the brain grows the fastest, with gross and fine motor skills improving exponentially (Santrock, 2019). To empower children for lifetime success, they need rich early learning experiences, as they help to form new neural connections in the brain when adults are nurturing, and all areas of development are equally important, with changes in one domain affecting other areas, or even show the importance of each area, with an example of how learning to crawl enables a toddler to discover the world (NAEYC, 2026). Thus, parents or teachers should never regard academics as more important than physical or any other areas of development, as they all correlate and enhance each other.


Cognitive development of young children


Secondly, the child’s cognitive development is analysed.

At 2 years old, a child is in the ‘terrible twos’ stage, and at 3 the child is very energetic, then at 4 the child is curious and speaks a lot, and at 5 the child starts feeling responsible, which leads to at 6 the child enjoys learning from reading, storytelling, or from shows like cartoons (SingHealth Group, 2025). A young child has endless potential to learn from the environment.

Young children are in the preoperational stage, so they are unable to do operations, which are reversible mental actions, though they use symbols to understand the world, and they start to ask a lot of questions as they construct knowledge when they interact with people (Santrock, 2019). Children during this stage need more concrete materials as they are unable to imagine concepts in their brains, and they also need nurturing relationships with adults to grow and learn from.


Socioemotional development of young children


Thirdly, a child’s socioemotional development will be discussed.

Erikson explains that early childhood is when the child tries to mediate between initiative versus guilt, as children learn more about themselves in terms of body parts, material objects, and physical activities, and also a deeper understanding of emotions, and parents who are more nurturing will have children who can self-regulate better (Santrock, 2019). It can never be overstated that adults need to be caring towards children, so children never grow up feeling bad about themselves.

Play is crucial for development, in helping imagination, peer relationships, and developing language, motor skills, promotes problem-solving and creates emerging skills (NAEYC, 2026). Hence, play should never be a secondary activity but should be treated equally as important as academics or schoolwork.

Therefore, these areas of development have been discussed: Physical, cognitive, and socioemotional. A common thread that connects all of them is the role of the teacher or parent, whether it is in providing rich learning experiences or being a supportive figure, as they continue to grow and develop into their middle childhood years.

 

References

NAEYC. (2026). Principles of Child Development and Learning and Implications That Inform Practice. Retrieved from NAEYC: https://www.naeyc.org/resources/position-statements/dap/principles

Santrock, J. W. (2019). Life-Span Development: Seventeenth Edition. New York: McGraw-Hill Education.

SingHealth Group. (2025). Child Development Milestones: From Newborn to 6 Years Old. Retrieved from HealthXchange: https://www.healthxchange.sg/child-life-stages/child-development-milestones/child-development-milestones-newborn-six

UNICEF. (2026). Early childhood development. Retrieved from UNICEF: https://data.unicef.org/topic/early-childhood-development/overview/




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Wednesday, January 28, 2026

Why Young Children “Misbehave”

Why Young Children “Misbehave”
Why Young Children “Misbehave”

Your child is not giving you a hard time; they are having a hard time.


What is behaviour?


Firstly, we need to understand what behaviour is, whether it is positive or negative. Your child is trying to communicate with you, just not in words that you would have liked. During your child’s seemingly endless meltdowns and tantrums, look beyond the screaming or kicking, and try to understand why this behaviour is happening. What emotions is your child going through right now?


What is emotional development?


Emotional development is about emotions, responses, and communicating through behaviours, and because children use behaviour to communicate, they need adults to help them regulate their emotions by being affirmative and calm, and sometimes adults need to change themselves before expecting children to change (Children First, 2026). Children lack the skills to tell you what they need and want, so as an adult, you are responsible for deciphering their behaviours.


Children are still developing


Secondly, we have to understand that children are still developing. They are learning things that adults have themselves taken many years to master, such as impulse control, language, and emotions. Admittedly, there are moments in our lives when we do not have everything in control, what more our young children? Parents and teachers can work together to guide children.


Adults' role in behavioural management


Teachers have to understand their roles in behavioural management, find out the reasons behind behaviours, understand that children are still developing, learning is complicated, but most importantly, to switch mindsets from misbehaviour to mistaken behaviour, and to use a positive approach (Gartrell, 1995). Traditional methods of teaching state that teachers are the ones teaching children and children are the ones learning, but contemporary approaches towards early childhood education disagree.

Traditional discipline uses punishment when children face difficult problems, which leads to reducing children’s self-esteem and negative emotions, whereas guidance provides positive alternatives for children to learn problem-solving in socially acceptable manners (Gartrell, 1995). The teacher has to guide the child positively on appropriate behaviour, never to punish because it will lead to dire consequences.


Stubborn behaviour? Or mistaken behaviour?


Thirdly, there is also the idea of mistaken behaviour. Children’s behaviour has any of these four reasons behind it: seeking attention, seeking power, seeking revenge, and showing incompetence, and they all aim to have social acceptance (Gartrell, 1995). At the end of the day, if the basic needs of a child are met, the negative behaviour should stop. If a parent were to shout at a child in a public place, it is inevitable that the child throws a tantrum and makes a big scene.

There are also three levels of mistaken behaviour: Strong-needs is at level three, socially influenced is at level two, and experimentation is at level one. Strong-needs refers to the most serious stage because the child, when he or she has psychological or physical pain and displays certain behaviours in a safe environment, and as for socially influenced, which is about the child learning from peers or adults in terms of actions or speech, and experimentation is when a child is still learning about the world around him or her by engaging with it (Gartrell, 1995). It is up to the discretion of the teacher to understand that the first two levels are merely imitation or exploration, and such behaviours can be guided. But the third level means a deeper level of understanding is required.


Role of the teacher


The role of the teacher is to set boundaries through leadership, and when teachers punish misbehaviour, hoping to bring positive change, it actually creates negative emotions within children, as they believe they are bad and hence their behaviour will display such thoughts (Gartrell, 1995). Being a parent or preschool teacher is never easy, and more often than not, they may lose their patience during behavioural management. However, it is important that during such moments, adults are still nurturing and positive towards the young children in order to guide them appropriately.

 

References

Children First. (2026). Children's behaviour and feelings: Emotional development in children. Retrieved from Children First: https://www.childrenfirst.org.uk/get-support/advice-for-families/guidance-advice/articles/behaviour-and-feelings/

Gartrell, D. (1995). Misbehavior or Mistaken Behavior? NAEYC, 50(5), 27-34. Retrieved from https://www.jstor.org/stable/42727062


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Saturday, July 27, 2024

Abuse

An adult verbally abusing a child.
An adult verbally abusing a child.

Abuse. This is a difficult topic that every early childhood educator must reckon with. We are all humans, and inevitably, because of pressure from parents/colleagues/principals/children, we can end up doing the wrong things.


The types of abuse


There are many different types of abuse, and a few of them are domestic abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, physical abuse, and sexual abuse (NSPCC, 2024). It is quite self-explanatory what each constitutes.

In 2023, there were 147 cases of abuse, and there are many more unreported cases and a strategy to curb this is to ensure parents and teachers can have ways to report such incidents and closed-circuit television cameras are now implemented in all preschools and government-funded early intervention centres (Chan, 2024).

Children are vulnerable, and we as adults should never hurt them, even if we are feeling overwhelmed. It is up to the management of schools to ensure that the school morale is kept at a positive level.

References

Chan, G. (2024, July 3). 147 child abuse cases investigated by ECDA in 2023 as confirmed cases also rise. The Straits Times. Retrieved from https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/politics/147-child-abuse-cases-investigated-in-2023-as-confirmed-cases-also-rise-ecda

NSPCC. (2024). Types of abuse. Retrieved from NSPCC: https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/


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Friday, May 31, 2024

Psychosocial theory (Erikson)

The distinct 8 stages of a person’s psychosocial development (Fenske, 2020).
The distinct 8 stages of a person’s psychosocial development (Fenske, 2020).

I realised I wanted to do an article last month on parents but ended up rushing the article on writing. Oh well, thought I could keep the streak of p words. This is about psychosocial theory by Erikson. These articles are helping me remember my school APA citation stuff.


Trust vs Mistrust and Autonomy vs Shame/Doubt


When a baby is just born, they are in the Trust Versus Mistrust stage, so when an adult picks up the baby when they cry, they slowly develop trust with that person. Likewise, if the adult refuses to comfort the child, the child realises that the adult cannot be trusted. The next stage is Autonomy Versus Shame/Doubt, whereby a child discovers what he or she is capable of and they continue to gain confidence unless an adult intervenes and brings them shame and doubt. For instance, if a child draws on the wall, an adult can be encouraging and guide the child’s behaviour appropriately, like teaching the child to draw on paper instead, then the child learns he or she can be a talented artist. However, if that same child is scolded repeatedly, they may feel fear and anxiety, shame and doubt in drawing pictures. Chances are, they are not so willing to draw.


Initiative vs Guilt


According to Erikson, the Initiative Versus Guilt stage is when the child has already understood they are capable by themselves, as they use their skills to navigate the world, and the main motivator for the initiative is conscience, so children build upon the previous stages to produce actions that can bring either rewards or guilt (Santrock, 2019).


The preschool stages


As a preschool educator, my main focus is on the 2nd and 3rd stages. It is interesting to see how adults’ actions play a crucial role in the lives of the little ones. We have to be careful in how we discipline them. Too much can stifle their development while too little can cause them to have no boundaries. We need to be both firm and encouraging, to allow children to develop on their own terms and we as adults are just guides for their journeys.

References

Fenske, C. (2020, September). Stages of Psychosocial Development. Retrieved from Orchard Valley Counselling Services: https://www.orchardvalleycounselling.ca/stages-of-psychosocial-development/

Santrock, J. W. (2019). Life-span Development (17th Edition). New York: McGraw-Hill Education.


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Saturday, August 21, 2021

Using Screen Time to Replace Parenting Time

A girl using her phone.
A girl using her phone.

Parents tend to use screen time as a parenting tool, which increases children’s media exposure, and that is because when children are 2 is when their behaviour can be difficult to control so parents used devices to control them, but parents need to think about long-term developmental needs instead, as skills such as self-regulation or healthy habits such as no screen time while eating should be cultivated (Elias & Sulkin, 2019).


Limit screen time


It is important to limit screen time for children as they will get more addicted when they become adolescents, and screen time is related to a higher obesity rate, though unfortunately, because adults themselves are addicted to the screen, they become unwilling to impose restrictions on children (Schoeppe, et al., 2016).


Dangers of screen time


Sedentary behaviour is encouraged with excessive screen time, and other issues arise, such as aggressive behaviour, reduced attention span, poor language and cognitive development (Carson & Janssen, 2012), and it also decreases parent-child interactions and causes delays in cognitive and socio-emotional domains (Wallace & Livingstone, 2019).

References

Carson, V., & Janssen, I. (2012, July 23). Associations between factors within the home setting and screen time among children aged 0-5 years: a cross-sectional study. BMC public health, 12(1), 539-539.

Elias, N., & Sulkin, I. (2019, December). Screen-Assisted Parenting: The Relationship Between Toddlers’ Screen Time and Parents’ Use of Media as a Parenting Tool. Journal of Family Issues, 40(18), 2801-2822. doi:10.1177/0192513X19864983

Schoeppe, S., Rebar, A. L., Short, C. E., Alley, S., Van Lippevelde, W., & Vandelanotte, C. (2016, March 1). How is adults' screen time behaviour influencing their views on screen time restrictions for children? A cross-sectional study. BMC Public Health, 16(1), 1-5. doi:10.1186/s12889-016-2789-3

Wallace, J. C., & Livingstone, A. (2019, May). G352(P) Screen time and children: assessing staff knowledge and parental practices regarding screen time. Archives of Disease in Childhood, 104, A144. doi:10.1136/archdischild-2019-rcpch.340


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Wednesday, April 29, 2020

5. Development in Middle and Late Childhood (Part 2)

Life-Span Development.
Life-Span Development.

The last study unit, which will be divided into 2 posts again. This will be about middle and late childhood, and the last post is about adolescence. I have essentially covered development from infancy to adolescence. It is quite productive to force my thoughts on writing using this blog, as a form of self-revision. When the lockdown is over, I wonder if I can find time to do the same for my other semesters.

Anyway, let’s get started with Socio-Emotional Development.

Socio-Emotional Development involves Personality Development, Emotional Development, Moral Development, and the social context of development.

When we talk about personality, we are talking about the self. We are referring to Erikson’s psychosocial theory, not about whether this person is introverted or extroverted. Self-esteem refers to global evaluations of the self while self-concept is about domain-specific aspects. Self-esteem is a whole, self-concept looks at one area. Growing up, I think I lack in both. I had an indulgent parenting style leading me to have low problem-solving or even self-esteem issues. When everything is handed down to you, you have no reason to fight. There were also issues in my family that were brushed away, simply because I was “a child”. A child does not need to know why the family is fighting. A child is too ignorant. Maybe if we airbrush everything, the child will not understand.

Self-esteem should be healthy. Too much leads to arrogance, too little leads to a sense of inferiority.
In Erikson’s theory, the 4th stage is Industry vs Inferiority. In this stage, children learn to have mastery over tasks, or they feel “inferior” about themselves. Adults have a choice of catering for their healthy development, or negative growth. As they discover what they can do, we should build an encouraging environment. We should raise their self-esteem.

These are 4 ways to do so.
1. Identifying the causes of low self-esteem
2. Provide emotional support and social approval
3. Help children achieve
4. Help children cope

These children are aged to 12 years old. Adolescence is a tricky age, so while parents still have some control over them, they should make use of that opportunity. Give them room to grow, independence, but ensure that you are with them. They are still unable to make sound decisions. Should I go to this Secondary school? They still need your guidance.

For Emotional and Personality Development, these changes occur. Improved emotional understanding, an increased understanding that more than one emotion can be experienced in a particular situation, marked improvements in the ability to suppress or conceal negative emotional reactions, an increased tendency to take into fuller account the events leading to emotional reactions, the use of self-initiated strategies for redirecting feelings, and a capacity for genuine empathy.
We have learned that Sternberg has mentioned 3 intelligences, Analytical, Creative, and Practical. Gardner has 8 intelligences. Regardless, both theories touch on social skills. Practical intelligence and interpersonal intelligence. Often parents neglect the social skills in favour of academic prowess. Being able to read and write does not determine success, I always emphasise to these parents. If our priority is set right from the beginning, we do not have to struggle with the child’s negative dispositions when it comes to social interaction, or even pay to go for classes that teach social skills.

Goleman also talks about 4 main aspects of emotional intelligence.
1. Developing emotional self-awareness
2. Managing emotions
3. Reading emotions
4. Handling relationships

Then, I shall move on to Moral Development. Piaget’s theory on moral development is about how a child does not understand rules, then think rules are unchangeable, and finally understand that rules can change and that the intention should be considered with the behaviour. Moral development can also be discussed in conjunction with Lawrence Kohlberg’s theories. There are 3 levels, with 2 stages each, so essentially there are 6 stages for a person to go through.

1. Preconventional Reasoning (Stage 1: Heteronomous morality [I must obey, or face punishment], Stage 2: Individualism, instrumental purpose, and exchange [If I am nice to others, others must be nice to me])
2. Conventional Reasoning (Stage 3: Mutual interpersonal expectations, relationships, and interpersonal conformity [I adopt my parents’ moral standards, and I value trust, care, and loyalty when making moral judgments], Stage 4: Social systems morality [I start to consider social order, law, justice, and duty])
3. Postconventional Reasoning (Stage 5: Social contract or utility and individual rights [I believe that rights, values, and principles are more important than law], Stage 6: Universal ethical principles [I follow my conscience, even if the decision is risky])

Prosocial behaviours is a positive aspect of moral behaviour, where the individual considers the needs of others. Altruism is unselfish interest in helping someone else. Both are desperately lacking in our Singapore context.

Next, I will move on to Social Context- Families. Though at this stage, children prefer to spend time with their friends more than families, families are still an important part of their lives. They are still able to negotiate with their children on their behaviours, but once they reach adolescence, it can be challenging. Moving on to Social Context- Peers. Children channel more energy to build friendships. During this stage, they are in the Primary Schools. They will spend more time together as a class and even after-school activities.  Again, the virtue of prudence is necessary here, in which children learn how to choose their friends wisely. At this age, they have a YOLO mindset, where they want to try everything. Later on, I will share more about why adolescence tends to do so.

Friendships serve 6 functions. Companionship (spend time together in collaborative activities), Stimulation (interesting information, encouragement, amusement), Physical Support (time, resources, assistance), Ego Support (friends provide support, encouragement, feedback, helps them see themselves as competent, attractive, worthwhile individuals), Social Comparison (helps the child to know if they are okay), and Intimacy and Affection (self-disclosure takes place). So, with these factors, it is no wonder parents might feel distanced from their children. It is not that they hate their parents, but they need friends to feel good about themselves.

Next, I will move on to Peer Status. There are 5 types. Popular children (best friend choice of many, rarely disliked), Average children (Balance of positive and negative nominations), Neglected children (Infrequently nominated as the best friend, not actively disliked by peers. I am part of this group), Rejected children (Infrequently nominated as the best friend, actively disliked by peers), and Controversial children (frequently nominated both as the best friend and being disliked). There are rare cases of controversial children, from what I recall in Primary School. These children seem to switch back and forth. They can be nice to you today, but nasty the next day. Strange.

References
Kong, G. S. (2020). SWK104 Human Growth and Life-Span Development (Birth to Adolescence) Study Guide (5CU). Singapore.

Santrock, J. W. (2019). Life-span Development (17th Edition). New York: McGraw-Hill Education.

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Saturday, April 25, 2020

3. Development in Early Childhood

Children constructing knowledge.
Children constructing knowledge.

The next study unit, unit 2. Not sure if this will also be divided into 2 posts. In this unit, I will be talking about development in children.

Previously I discussed infant development, and there is really so much to explore and learn about them, now we are moving forward to children.

According to Piaget, children go through the pre-operational stage of their cognitive development between 2 to 7, and operations are internalized set of actions that allow children to do what they did before. Pre-operational means they are still unable to do so. The pre-operational thought is divided into 2 sub-stages: Symbolic Function Sub-stage and Intuitive Thought Sub-stage.

In Symbolic Function Sub-stage, children are from 2 to 4 and are starting to mentally represent an object that is not present. But they are in the egocentrism stage, they are unable to see from the perspective of someone else. During our zoom meeting, the children are eating food. In the k1 class, they do not realise that everyone else cannot see what they are eating, because they can only see from their perspective. They also have animism, where they believe objects have lifelike qualities. That they are like living things.

In the Intuitive Thought Sub-stage, children’s thought is intuitive, so they do not know how they know what they know. Their knowledge is also more intuitive and lacks rational thinking.

Centration also happens during pre-operational thought, where children focus solely on one thing and neglect the rest, and this affects them to have a lack of conservation, for instance, if you pour water between a taller container and a shorter container, they will think the water has increased. The truth is, the volume of water remains, but because of their centration on the height, they lack conservation.

Vygotsky believes that knowledge is mutually constructed. The Zone of Proximal Development is a key part of the social constructivist theory, that an adult is crucial in helping the child learn to do a task independently. Scaffolding is used to achieve that, where the adult slowly reduces the amount of help until the child is capable.

When children do things, they might use private speech. They talk to themselves. When adults do that, they might be too stressed. I digress. Vygotsky believes this is crucial and good, it is a transition to when they communicate with adults. Language is a key part of constructing knowledge. However, Piaget believes it is bad because private speech is egocentric and immature. I do agree that, but I don’t think it is bad or immature. It just happens to be what happens along with a child’s development.

Information processing is also crucial in children. 2 aspects are key to their cognitive processes, attention and memory. As for attention, there are 2 further elements: Habituation (lose of attention) and Dishabituation (recovery of attention). The child’s ability to pay attention evolves through 3 ways: Control of attention, salient vs relevant dimensions, ‘planfulness’.

Memory is the retention of information over time. It is further divided into 3 sub-groups. Sensory Memory (SM), Short-Term Memory (STM), and Long-Term Memory (LTM). We know the other two, but the first one is quite interesting. Children are capable of retaining memories, that is why when you teach them something they can remember. They use a technique called “rehearsal”, to ensure they remember.

Language development also occurs, as they understand the different systems of rules. Phonology (sounds of letters), morphonology (forming of words), syntax (forming of sentences), semantics (the meaning of words), and pragmatics (words in context).

As for physical development, children of this age are super active, and that is normal. We shouldn’t label children as being active, because that is who they are. Gross and fine motor skills develop rapidly, as they begin to discover what they can do. Erikson’s psychosocial theory falls in nicely here, where children are in the autonomy vs shame & doubt stage and initiative vs guilt stage. They need to receive affirmation about what they can do, they need time to learn what they can do, and sometimes as adults, the biggest help we can give children is to step back.

What this all means for educators and preschools, is that education must be holistic. While in Primary and Secondary schools, teachers are more specialized, preschool teachers cover everything. Though on a simpler level.

Moving on to socioemotional development in children. In infants, the caregiver is crucial in their socioemotional development, but for children, peers take a more central role than their families. I had a Zoom hang out with the kiddos, and they were all having fun talking to each other about random things. This section will be divided into Emotional and Personality Development, Social Context- Family, and Social Context- Roles of Peers, Play, and TV.

For Emotional and Personality Development, the self is important to know. Children learn to understand themselves more, like in Erikson’s theory. In emotional development, children need support from adults. There are 2 types of role parents play when it comes to emotions: Emotion-coaching and Emotion-dismissing. Emotion-coaching is to acknowledge negative emotions and coach them, while emotion-dismissing is simply rejecting negative emotions. Children need to understand that it is okay to be angry or sad, but it is about what they do with their emotions. I shall move on to moral development. Piaget also talks about moral development, and there are 3 stages. Heteronomous morality (4 to 7), Transition (7 to 10), and Autonomous Morality (10 and above).

In Heteronomous morality, children perceive rules as unchangeable, that people are not able to control them. I see this all the time, children can articulate rules out to their peers, even to teachers and parents. Immanent Justice occurs here, where children perceive that when they do something wrong, punishment will come. So when something bad happens to someone, they must have done something wrong. I find it hilarious that this is true, as sometimes children will spill things. Everyone gets quiet when I ask who spilt or what spilt. I am not angry, but because I said it out, they think the teacher is angry and is going to scold that child. Not really, sometimes it is an accident.

The Transition stage blends elements from the first and third stage, while the third stage, Autonomous Morality, children understand rules are created by people, and they should not only take note of consequences but also intentions. Crossing the road when the light is red is one such example.

But I do think that educators need to role-model the correct behaviour, instead of talking or scolding. Children imitate. They use the same language adults use. Can you please share? Can you be kind to your friends? I have found that after a while, I have lots of parrots and mimes in my class. They are just a reflection of me. If I don’t show kindness, they will never know what is kindness. It ain’t about scolding or getting angry.

Next, I will talk about Social Context- Family. There are 4 types of parenting styles.

Authoritarian: Strict control, tyrants.
Authoritative: Allows independence in children but still have control, warm and nurturing.
Neglectful: Very uninvolved with children.
Indulgent: Very involved with children, but no control over them.

I have to admit that for myself, I have been in indulgent parenting. It has affected my self-esteem growing up. I have no idea how to defend myself against bullies. That is why I am strict on children who have indulgent parenting. I want to make sure that when they grow up, they can survive by themselves. Mummy and daddy are not going to help you. Who cares if your parents own the kindergarten? Are they going to be with you in Primary school, Secondary school etc?

Often, authoritarian parents use punishment to discipline their children. Children should have clear boundaries, but not punished. Disciplined firmly. Punishment is bad because children will imitate that, so when they feel stressed they will do that behaviour or action. Focusing too much on the negative will only enlarge it, and reduce the positive behaviours. When I give children time-out, I try to speak to them afterwards. Usually, they are remorse, so it is easy to talk to them. Of course, there are a couple who never learn. Those might have been through tough punishment or have no clear boundaries at home. It is always a juggling act between positive reinforcement or discipline.

In families, there may be siblings. These relationships can affect children, even birth order. Being the oldest, youngest, or the middle can affect a child in a big way. Families in our modern society are so different, we have both parents working, so usually, grandparents or helpers will take care of children. Even if one parent is not working, there is a tendency to overdo. The parent might stifle the child’s independence by doing too much for the child until the child is unable to do things by themselves. That can be an indulgent parent.

Then, I shall talk about Social Context- Roles of Peers, Play, and TV. The peer group becomes more prominent in a child’s life as he or she gets older. The family will have a lesser influence over them. This is crucial, as the child might make a poor judgment about friends. The virtue of prudence is key, in ensuring a child can decide to be friends with a good company. Play happens during peer interactions. So much good stuff happens when children play together. I always ensure children are playing with each other, so the activity does not matter. Both Piaget and Vygotsky agree on the importance of play. Play is good for cognitive development.

Mildred Parten categorized play into 6 stages. Unoccupied play, solitary play, onlooker play, parallel play, associative play, and cooperative play. There are also 5 other categories of play. Sensorimotor (infants get pleasure by using their sensorimotor schemes) and practice play (repetition of using skills), Pretense/symbolic play (transforms the physical environment into symbols), Social play (Involves interactions with peers), Constructive play (combines sensorimotor and repetitive activity with the symbolic representation of ideas, and it happens when children engage in self-regulated construction of a product or a problem solution), and Games (Rules, sometimes competition).

Finally, about Television. In our context, that includes electronic devices. Many children spend time on devices than with their families. I have seen so many families leaving children to watch a cartoon. If that is meant to “control” children, that says a lot about your parenting skills, or willingness to be a parent.

References
Kong, G. S. (2020). SWK104 Human Growth and Life-Span Development (Birth to Adolescence) Study Guide (5CU). Singapore.

Santrock, J. W. (2019). Life-span Development (17th Edition). New York: McGraw-Hill Education.

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Sunday, April 19, 2020

2. Introduction to Life-Span Development (Part 2)

Life-Span Development.
Life-Span Development.

This next post is about the same study unit, but because the unit is big, I had to separate the material into 2 posts. Physical Development, Cognitive Development, and Socio-Emotional Development.

Infants develop the fastest among the different age groups. In a year, the baby can grow twice in size.
I shall touch on the physical development of infants. It is further categorised into Physical Growth, Motor Development, and Sensory and Perceptual Development.

Cephalocaudal and Proximodistal development. 2 big words I never expected to pass the spell-check. Cephalocaudal is about the child growing from head to toe. Proximodistal is about growing from inside out, like from trunk to fingers and toes. Interesting, right? Both happen together, so infants develop their gross motor skills first before the fine motor skills. At birth, the brain is 25% the size of an adult brain, but by 2, it is 75%!

In motor development, there is a theory called Dynamic System Theory. It is about assembling motor skills for perceiving and acting. Infants imitate behaviours and carry them out according to the situation. Nature and nurture both play a part, whether it is about the environment or the genes of the infant.

Gross and fine motor skills develop differently in children. While there are certain milestones, such as being able to sit without support or walk, we should understand their individuality. Of course, if there is something wrong, we should rectify it. A 6-year-old unable to walk properly is an issue.

A brain.
A brain.

Moving on to cognitive development.

It entails cognitive processes such as Piaget’s adaptation, where children can assimilate and accommodate to learn new things. A scheme is an action or mental representation that organises knowledge. Organisation is when children organise their experiences cognitively to understand the world. Equilibration is how children shift from one stage of thought to another, while Equilibrium is about a balance between new and current knowledge. Disequilibrium happens when there is no balance, and thus assimilation and accommodation need to occur for the balance to happen.

Piaget’s 4 stages of cognitive development: Sensorimotor, Pre-operational, Concrete Operational, and Formal Operational.

Sensorimotor happens when infants construct knowledge by connecting what is captured from the senses to motor skills. Sensorimotor is divided into 6 substages: Simple reflexes, First habits and primary circular reactions, Secondary circular reactions, Coordination of secondary circular reactions, Tertiary circular reactions, novelty, and curiosity, and Internalisation of schemes.

Infants have 4 basic reflexes, from birth to 1 month. Sucking Reflex (an object placed near the mouth), Rooting Reflex (infant will try to suck something stroking its cheek or side of mouth), Moro Reflex (when shocked, infants adopt a posture as if to grab for support, a primal instinct), and Grasping Reflex (infant grabs something stroking its palms). It’s just a computer, there are built-in functions. I can verify this, as I recently tried them with an infant from my relative’s house.

First habits refer to reflexes, and primary circular reactions refer to a reproduction of an event that happened by chance, for instance, a child puts the thumb into the mouth unconsciously.

Secondary circular reactions are from 4 to 8 months. Infants focus lesser on themselves and more on objects. Their actions are about giving themselves pleasurable results, like cooing (single syllable, vowel sound) to make a person go near them.

Then from 8 to 12 months, they are in the Coordination of secondary circular reactions stage. They start to coordinate vision and touch senses, and coordination of schemes. They can do intentional actions, such as using a stick to bring an object closer.

Tertiary circular reactions, novelty, and curiosity happen in the 12 to 18-month stage. Infants start to experiment with how objects work, so they begin to explore possibilities.

Finally, Internalisation of schemes occurs from 18 to 24 months. Now, infants can see and repeat actions done by others. If they see a child throwing a tantrum, they can imitate that and do it by themselves.

Object permanence is an interesting phenomenon, where children understand that an object continues to exist even when it is hidden from sight. Toddlers are unable to do so, so when you hide a toy, they will cry. But for a child, if you hide it, he or she will look for it. If you play Peek-A-Boo, they know you are still there.

Under cognitive development, we also have language development. Language has five systems of rules: Phonology (sound system), Morphology (word formation), Syntax (sentence formation), Semantics (meanings of words/sentences), and Pragmatics (appropriate use of language in a different context).

Watched a video of the reenactment of the wild boy of Averyon. Sadly, such a thing could happen to a child. Language is impossible to attain after the critical years are over, further supporting the case that the early years of every person are the most important. Not just in language, but in self-esteem, social skills, cognitive and physical development. The list can go on and on. Early childhood is not about “working in a childcare”, or that it is a “lower level compared to Pri or Sec school”. It is the foundation of every single person on this earth.

I shall move on to socio-emotional development in infants.

Emotion is defined as a combination of physiological arousal with overt behaviour, so excitement is when the heartbeat races and the child jumps up and down.

It is further divided into primary emotions and self-conscious emotions. Primary emotions are, of course, primal emotions. They are present in humans and animals. What makes us different is that we have self-conscious emotions, such as pride. We have country pride, pride in ourselves. This is not a bad emotion. We just need to control it wisely.

In infants, there are 4 key developmental changes in emotions. Crying, Smiling, Fear, and Stranger Anxiety.

Caregivers are important, as they respond accordingly to infants. Even their cries have meaning, and infants develop a secure relationship with adults if the adults are responsive.

Smiling has 2 categories, reflexive smile and social smile. Reflexive smile occurs without an external stimulus, usually when the infant is asleep. Ain’t that precious? Social smile is when an external stimulus occurs, such as the presence of a loved one. I have children who show me the social smile when they see me, that is cute.

Fear is what fuels stranger anxiety, which starts from 6 months and intensifies by 9 months of age. No wonder infants have no qualms getting carried when they are only a few months old.

Erikson’s psychosocial theory comes to play here, infants develop a trust vs mistrust relationship even very early on. We cannot assume infants are lost in the world. They are very much capable of forming bonds with humans if they are allowed to do so.

There is a term called Social Referencing, which means infants read emotional cues to decide what to do in a situation. Infants and children are very sensitive to “vibes”. I had an ex-colleague who was getting “drilled” by the female boss and principal, for her work performance. I was not there, but they shared with me that it had a very tense atmosphere. I recall the boss talking with an employee in the van with me, though they were speaking in another language I understood the words ‘principal’ and ‘boss’. They were talking about her. Later on, they shared that while they were still talking, one of the toddlers came and hugged her. She nearly cried. The boy understood something. She was getting bullied. So he did that. This boy is usually in his world, but I wish I could have seen that incident. Yes, they may not understand the language. Yes, they can’t tie their shoes. But never underestimate children. They can sense things that somehow we adults have lost along the way.

Infants grow to have emotional regulation by their first birthday.

Next, I will be talking about temperament.

3 theories talk about temperament. Chess and Thomas’ Classification, Kagan’s Behavioural Inhibition, and Rothbart and Bates’ Classification.

Firstly, for Chess and Thomas’ Classification, that are 3 basic types: Easy child (positive), Difficult child (negative), Slow-to-warm-up child (somewhat negative, low intensity of mood).

Then for Kagen’s Behavioural Inhibition, it focuses on differences between shy, subdued, timid child and a sociable, extraverted, bold child. The inhibition is referring to the shy, timid child, which relates to the slow-to-warm-up child from Chess and Thomas’ classification.

And finally, for Rothbart and Bates’ Classification, it talks about extraversion (positive anticipation, impulsivity, sensation-seeking, Kagen’s uninhibited children fit here), negative affectivity (cry easily, Kagen’s inhibition children fit here), and effortful control (self-regulation, keeps arousal from getting too high).

Kagen believes temperament falls under the category of nature, though with experience, they can change. Culture and gender also play a part in shaping temperament. It is interesting for me, as I observe that girls are more assertive than guys. There are certain issues girls have to overcome in society, so their temperament needs to change to adapt.

As educators, we have to be careful to find out children’s context, and not to assume and classify them accordingly.

From Ann Sanson and Mary Rothbart, there are 3 strategies for parents to use with regards to temperament.
1. Attention to and respect for individuality (every child is unique)
2. Structuring the child’s environment (crowded and noisy environment can affect children)
3. The “difficult child” and packaged parenting programmes (the label might help, but not for the long-term)

As for Personality Development, Erikson’s Trust vs Mistrust is a key period in infants, as they connect with nurturing adults in their lives, they build trust. However, that does not mean a stable relationship will last them throughout. Their parents might separate when they are older, then they go back to the trust vs mistrust stage.

This is also called Attachment. It is discussed in at least 3 theories. Sigmund Freud believes infants seek to be attached to a person who gives them oral satisfaction, such as feeding. Erik Erikson believes in the trust vs mistrust stage.

John Bowlby has 4 phases of attachment. He believes that infants are biologically equipped to elicit attachment behaviour, that increases the chances of an adult paying attention to them, and this is crucial in the infant’s survival.

Phase 1: From birth to 2 months, infants instinctively direct their attachment to human figures.
Phase 2: From 2 to 7 months, attachment becomes focused on one figure, usually the primary caregiver.
Phase 3: From 7 to 24 months, specific attachment developed. With increased locomotor skills, babies actively seek contact with regular caregiver.
Phase 4: From 24 months on, children become aware of others’ feelings, goals, and plans, and begin to take these into account in forming their own actions.

Mary Ainsworth has a few types of attachments. Securely attached babies (caregiver is a secure base), insecure-avoidant babies (avoids caregiver), insecure resistant babies (clings and then pushes caregiver away), insecure disorganized babies (disorganized and disoriented.

References
Kong, G. S. (2020). SWK104 Human Growth and Life-Span Development (Birth to Adolescence) Study Guide (5CU). Singapore.

Santrock, J. W. (2019). Life-span Development (17th Edition). New York: McGraw-Hill Education.

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Wednesday, March 18, 2020

Toxic People

A group of people shocked at toxic people.
Toxic people.

Before tackling this issue, we need to define what toxic people are. 

What are toxic people?


A toxic person is defined as someone who makes you feel physically and emotionally tired and negative, but what makes it worse is that they are very good at confusing you, and you realise you trust their opinion more than you trust yourself (Langslet, 2018).

We can identify such people in our lives, but the challenge is to cut them away.

While adults can easily walk out of a toxic relationship, teenagers struggle with that, as they believe strongly in the opinions of others, even if a friend is constantly being sarcastic or even abusive, so they need self-esteem to realise that they are being abused (Rivera, 2013).

The impact of toxic people on young children


What makes it worse is that young children are susceptible to such people. It affects their development later on. Verbal, physical or sexual abuse has long-term effects on children’s self-esteem. Sometimes adults need to be discerning as to who the toxic people are, to protect these young ones. We as adults will sometimes struggle with healing those wounds, but are children capable of doing so?

Some relationships are worth keeping or repairing, but some people are like snakes. If you get bitten by a snake once, it is obviously the snake's fault. But if you allow the snake to bite you again, you are the one to blame. In the same way, we tell children to keep their hands on their laps; when they don't, and their hands get injured, the blame lies with them.

Hence, if certain people do not give you peace of mind, you have to make a difficult decision.

References

Langslet, K. (2018, April 6). 3 Signs a Toxic Person Is Manipulating You (and What to Do About It). Retrieved from GREATiST: https://greatist.com/live/dealing-with-a-toxic-person#8

Rivera, M. (2013). TOXIC PEOPLE. The Hispanic Outlook in Higher Education, 33.

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Saturday, October 13, 2018

Loved and Unloved Children

A mother hugging her child.
A mother hugging her child.

There are two boys. Boy A and boy B.

Boy A is adored by his parents and grandparents from both sides of the family. His achievements are celebrated and honoured. He is always so cheerful in class, both to his peers and teachers. Though he is a little bit shy, he is comfortable with showing his work to others.

Boy B has a broken family. One parent is passive, so the pressure is on the other. He gets scolded daily. When asked what he did wrong, he could not answer. He would apologise, but then do the same action again.

The role of adults


It takes a village to raise a child. While children learn social skills and moral values in school, it does not mean that parents do not have to inculcate values in them. It is a partnership between parents and teachers to nurture the child. I am not a parent yet, but I do understand the struggles parents have to go through. I am thankful that I get to see them for only a few hours daily. But then, there is not enough time.

Values like honesty, loving others, respecting others, etc, must be taught both at home and in school. Children must be empowered and encouraged. I really don't like to scold children. The negative words or tone can actually break them. I have tried saying something positive or giving a gift as encouragement, and it helps to build them.

Faith, hope, and love. Love is the most important.

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